hi kak red.
thanks for reading my mail.
actually i need ur help la kak.my bestfren ade big problem. she’s very weak.mcm budak2 perangai.x boleh nk decide for her future. x tau what shud she do. last month she positve pregnant.she told me everything.as a fren i x blh bia kan dia sorg2.so i help her sort her prob.she decided to gugurkan kandungan.
but i rsa x sanggup sgt2.mcm x smpai hati.tpi we still study.she still have one semester left to complte her study.i sgt kesian kan dia.msa tgah nk exam morning sickness toksah ckp lah.setiap msa muntah.i never face this before.quite shocked at first.but i’ve no choice.xkn nk bia kan dia sorg2.i ask her to call org yg lebih arif.then they said teruskan je kandungan tu.the big prob is kami lgsg x dpt contact her bf. bf dye org sarawak.work there and stay there with his family.
so we decided to check for 2nd time.xnk percaya pada pregnancy kit because we dont have any experience in this case.so we went to clinic.n the doctor said positive.and the baby almost 2 months and half.i suggest her to tell her mum first.nsb baik la mak dia ni baik.so i told her mum bgi pihak dia.dia x sggp nk bgtau.sbb tau nnti melukakan ati mak dia.mak dia terkejot and x sngka ank dia boleh buat mcm tu.what we can said.nasi dah jdi bubur. so we ask the best opion for her mum. mak dia x nk malu.mak dia srh gugur kan kandungan tu.mak dia bgi duit rm800 for the obortion.at that time i felt very2 useless.hanta dia pergi klinik buat semua tu.but i’ve no choice.dari biakan dia sorg2.her mum x boleh drive and harapkan i to help her daughter.
lepas da selesai semua we never talk about that anymore.but last night she told me that her bf msg ada msg.i mmg x boleh terima.mcm2 alasan jantan tu bgi.ckp dye xcident and mak dia pegang hp.dia ckp sebulan lebih dia kt hospital.patah kaki semua.pelik.xkan la lame sgt kn.lps tu hp dia mk dia ckp hilang masa xcident tu.mak dia tau pasal hal ni.tapi rahsia kan dari dia coz family dia x suka my fren.
last night my fren t’gerak hati nk call dia.dapat tpi nobody pick up the phone.tiba2 he msg.ckp terjumpa hp dalam bag mak dia.mak dia sorokkan hp.and he regret on what had happend.dia ckp sanggup dtg kl untuk kawin dgn my fren.i know my fren still love him.tpi i x boleh terima alasan jantan tu.yang i pelik nya x kan la mak dia nk topupkan hp dia.k
lu sebulan lebih x guna fon msti dah expired.my mistake dulu x call tempat keje jantan tu.skarang dia muncul balik.n my fren percayakan jantan tu.
he’s a digi user.n keja hotel kt kuching.if anyone can help me to prove that he’s guilty please please please i really need ur help. i x nak he destroy my fren life.dah la pemabuk.klu i jumpa dia rasa nk tembak je!
greeny min
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June 10th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
umaigad…
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June 10th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
i think menggugurkan kandungan is criminal kt country kita.. in term of law la.. if i not mistaken, those yg terlibat sama ada ibu kandung janin, u (the one who help) and the doctor and jugak her mum boleh didakwa. coz we in malaysia still not legalized abortion. even doctor sendiri, dalam ethic doctor sendiri..shuld respect semua kehidupan..even janin.. i’m as a medical student.. we learn about dat.. and.. dalam sumpah yg dilaungkan oleh semua doktor pon tetap mereka bersumpah menghormati hidup manusia even janin.. that my opinion..
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June 10th, 2009 at 10:16 pm
i’ve been tru alot with this kind of situation b4..
tp usually i’d advised them not to abort the baby.. DOSA & KESIAN..
nasihat je la .. pastu terpulang la kpd tuan badan…
abt the bf… segala drama camnie aku dah dengari juge…
cam mentipu je…ntah ek.. dare not to say much…
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greenny reply on June 10th, 2009:
@Heartless Devilish @ Reen, i did advice her.i knew dia x smpa hati nk abort.but her mum x nk malu.dia pon x blh buat ape2.i cried when she decided to abort.
hurm..bf dia mmg mcm tu.terlalu byk helah.but she still trust her bf.i pon dah xtau nk ckp ape.dats y i need to prove her yg bf dye mmg x guna.
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June 10th, 2009 at 10:23 pm
yeah.i knew but i’ve no choice.her mum decided that and i just help her as a fren. not just in our country but also our religion taught us.berdosa besar..what can i said.im not her mum or somebody.x semudah itu untk seorg ibu trma semua ni.n her mum think about maruah.then the abortion is the way..i want to help her to find that man.who shud responsible on what he did.anyone help me plz.
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fafa reply on November 22nd, 2009:
@greenny,
hey..bole saya dapatkan email awak?need 2 ask u sumting
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June 10th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
hotel kt kuching ni x byk dik… bagi je nama mamat siot tu dan hotel mana dia keja..
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greenny reply on June 10th, 2009:
@Miss Coki, kak,can i’ve ur email???i’ll give u the details.thanks.
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June 10th, 2009 at 11:36 pm
nasi dh jadi bubur. mmg parents akan malu sbb perbuatan anak mereka tu. tp, sampainya hati mak dye suruh anak dye tambah dosa lagi. itu bkn jln penyelesaian yg btol.
let me share wit u 1 story. i der kwn yg jrg jmp sbb i stdy n dye keje. ms jmp tu, i der tegur dye, nape perut maken boncet. kuat mkn ea. dye cuma iya kan je. dye nie mmg dlm bulan2 nk khwin. 1 day, dye bgtw i yg sbenarnya dye preg. terkejut! tp nk wt cmner. mula2 dlu, mmg dorg decide nk gugurkn baby tu. dye main netball, lompat2 sume tp ttp xgugur. ms dye bgtw i tu, kndungan dh 4 bulan. mknenyer 4 bulan dye tggung sume nie tanpe pngetahuan fmly dye.
1 day, ibu dye mimpi baby. then ibu dye tny dye yg dye nie der pape ke. dye xnk bgtw. bile ibu dye tak give up n terus tny, then dye mengaku. ibu dye bgtw ayh dye. tarikh perkahwinan dorg dicepatkan. mmg ayh dye bersifat kejam siket, my fren xboleh mkn byk2 smpi la tarikh dorg dinikahkn. tp alhamdulillah, sumenyer still ok sehingga dorg slmt dinikahkan.
skrg nie sume org taw yg dye dh preg padahal skrg nie dye dh deliver baby boy dh pon. she’s stay kl je lps kawen, tggl dgn mak mentua yg agak gampang la jugak. blom pernah blk rumah parents dye. bnd nie still jdi secret wlupon dgn adk bradik dye skali. dlm fmly cume parents dye je yg taw. skrg baby dh 2 bulan dh. parents dye rajen juga la dtg kl sbb nk tgk cucu dye. ble parents dye nak jenguk my fren, i mesti follow parents dye. parents dye mmg syg sgt2 dgn cucu dorg smpi ms dh blk tuh, mst cium baju yg still ada bau baby.
benda nie memang memalukan. tapi ingat lah, baby tu tak bersalah. maafkan lah mereka yg dh alpa seketika tu. biar ALLAH sj yg menghukum. org lain jgn lah nk mengata. kita xtaw klo bnd2 tu jd plak di kalangan keluarga kita. hal2 lain tolak ketepi, yg penting beri lah satu nyawa yg xberdosa dlm perut tu terus hidup.
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greenny reply on June 11th, 2009:
@wiwie,
in this case nsb baik parents dye still blh trma.and diorg pon mmg plan nk kawen.my fren ni bf dye keje ntah apa2.yg plg worse pemabuk.mcm mna nk kawin klu cm ni.i pon x sngka mk dia srh abortion.sedih sgt bila tgk doc scan baby tu.dah nmpk dah shape baby tu coz dah nk masuk 3 blh.mmg x snggp nk ingt blk.tpi i rsa berdosa sgt smpi skarang.
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wiwie reply on June 11th, 2009:
@greenny,
ts ok, its not ur fault. u cant do anything sbb mak dye sndri yg suruh gugurkan.
jgn la rs sebe slh sgt k. lagi pun baby pun dh digugurkan an?
cheer up greeny,
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June 10th, 2009 at 11:44 pm
lol!
sian nya. i wanna hav bby!
tp nape kah perempuan selalu cair lemah lembik hancur tolol n sebagai nya terhadap jantan???
ini aku xbrapa nk paham!
bole tlg paham kan x?
anyone?
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June 11th, 2009 at 7:44 am
erm.. kalau saya la, saya biarkan je kawan sorang tu ngan jantan tu balik.. nak sangat! lepas tu sound siap2, kalau jadi apa2, tanggung sendiri!
coz this girl dah masyuk sangat dengan lelaki tu, x yah la nak halang.. buang masa adik je.. baik concerntrate study.. dan move on. biarkan kawan sorang tu dengan dunia dia!
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KK reply on June 11th, 2009:
@zuhaini, betul tu. kalau dah gatal merenyam sgt, dah jantan tu wat celaka pon nak percaya jugak lagi, nak sayang jugak lagi, biar je la dia pegi. bgtahu mak ayah dia then ko basuh tgn je, blah. buat ape nak susahkan diri utk org yg mmg sengaja mencari susah?? isk! rasa nk mencarut je kat kwn ko tu. aku emo sbb dlm hal ni, pompuan jugak yg diperkotak katik. itu pon tak nampak2 lagi? mmg patut dicarutkan aje.
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wiwie reply on June 11th, 2009:
@KK,
its ok, its not ur fault. u cant do anything sbb mak dye sndri yg suruh gugurkan.
jgn la rs sebe slh sgt k. lagi pun baby pun dh digugurkan an?
cheer up KK!
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wiwie reply on June 11th, 2009:
@wiwie,
hoho. slh reply pulak. ngeee ~
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June 11th, 2009 at 7:46 am
emmmm yang nak baby susah pulak nak dapat.. mcm sayer nie..
yang buat benda terlarang ie.. aiiii senangg jeeee….
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Lady inRED reply on June 28th, 2009:
@miMiE aZiM@Sk ^V^,
.:: Betul!!! Betul!!! Betul!!! Pastu sesuka ati buang baby yg baru lahir kat tmpt public… Adoyai… ::.
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June 11th, 2009 at 8:57 am
bencinya lelaki cam tu… i have an experience.. tp bukan on me la.. on one of my frens gak.. lebih kurang la citer dia cam tu.. cuma dia tak peknen je.. pastu laki tu mintak putus ngan dia.. masa tu mmg my frens ni frust menonggeng lg.. tp alhamdulillah.. family dia support dr belakang.. ye la.. menda dah jadi.. takkan nak panggil doraemon soh undurkan masa plak kan.. skang ni, my frens dah ok.. keje seme dah ok.. last2 laki tu g carik dia balik.. punye la desperate nak balik kat my frens tu.. siap ugut lg.. kata if my frens takmo terima dia balik.. ni nak buat sesuatu kat my frens sbb dia ada gambar my frens.. pastu, dia sanggup soh akak dia sms kat my frens ni.. g tau yg dia dah mati.. sbb dok rindukan my frens ni.. giloss.. yg best tu.. a few days later.. dia msg my frens.. tanya khabar itu ini.. aik.. dalam kubur pun ada line maxis ke? penipu besoo.. bebaru ni dia cakap ngan my frens.. dia nak kawen ngan my frens.. tp once family dia tau.. family dia kata tak nak.. ye la.. ko dah buat cam tu kat anak orang.. sampai ugut2 cam tu.. ingat family dia nak terima ke? kang pas kawen tah apa lg yg laki tu buat…
kesimpulannye.. yes.. pompuan mana yg tak cair ngan pujuk rayu laki.. especially lelaki yg agak2 romantik, caring, hensem, tertarik mmg da’bomb.. cam kes ur frens ni.. since menda dah jadi kan.. tak guna kita dok kenang2… apa yg leh buat skang, bykkan solat, berdoa mintak supaya Allah dapat ampunkan dosa yg telah dilakukan yg yang penting, jangan ulangi lagi.. anggaplah apa yg dah jadi tu as pengajaran.. belajar elok2.. insya allah.. suatu hari nanti.. akan datang jodoh yg datang dari Allah.. yg mana akan berkekalan hingga ke hujung nyawa.. itulah namanya, Syurga Cinta.. hiks.. ni penangan citer Syurga Cinta la ni.. :P
hehe.. sekian cerita ceriti dan pandangan dari saya..
yg mana leh ikut tu, ikut la.. if tak leh ikut.. abaikan je.. anggaplah ia as cerita ceriti gitu-gitu.. :P
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June 11th, 2009 at 10:00 am
i get trough this kind of prob.. saya rasa sbgai kawan kena cheer up dia smula, having fun as a friend,student, muslimah bersama2.. sbg kwn kena sacrifice dr segi masa dan emotional utk bantu dia lupakan buaya pondan tuh..
yg penting kawan awk kena kuatkan semangat,, dia akn syg buaya pondan tu slagi dia x jumpe lelaki yg lain..
so, make her positive all the time. she will appreciate that. dan jgn lupa bg tau kat , tuhan bg dia pilihan untk hidup dan mati dlm keadaan yg kita sndiri akan tentukan..
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greenny reply on June 11th, 2009:
@boolat,
yeah!
i agree with u.i cant leave her alone kan. x sampai hati ):
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June 11th, 2009 at 10:10 am
oh gosh!
if cakap awal…
im sure a lot of people would want to adopt the baby
including me!
tapi dah terlambat kan??
kawan you tau ke dia tuh pemabuk??
better check HR kat hotel dia tuh
or better still…carik kawan2 laki tuh kalau boleh
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greenny reply on June 11th, 2009:
@dnas,
she’s not supposed to abort the baby ):
but its too late.
she knew already.since kawan.and alasan that guy most of sarawakian pemabuk.nonsense!!
skang laki tu ckp dye dah tkr tmpt keje.
dah x keje dkt hotel lame lgi.
so ssh nk cari dia.
ntah la.
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June 11th, 2009 at 11:13 am
sy pun prnah jd kawan yg menolong kwn yg sdg prgnt, n paling trperanjat die tau selepas 7month,sbb die nie bdn bsr so mmg xnmpak sgt…..time tuh dlm kelas..die msg n bg tau sy…menyelirap drh dlm bdn,sy yg gigil…tp i noe she need me,sy kena sokong die, sy kena buat die kuat….alhamdulillah the guys yg berchenta ngan die nak brtggngjwb…kwn sy nie tiap sem dpt DL(dekan list)…huhu…sgt pndai…sgt rapat dgn sy, i miss time kami geng2 blaja…die kena extend,my pengarah kolej bg kelonggaran,bukan dibuang kolej…die cuti 1 sem….die nak gugurkan,tp sy kate ” if nak gugur,aku xnak dgr psl ko,xnak cmpur psl hal nak g gugur ko tuh”….
die delivered,family terime die n bby girl tuh…skang sume nyer bahagia…….alhamdulillah….
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greenny reply on June 11th, 2009:
@ridzyati,
Ya Allah.
bagus nya family dia.and she can think the right way.
but without that cruel man we cant do anything.
hanya tanggung malu ):
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June 11th, 2009 at 12:42 pm
i hate abortion!!!
ntah la kak red..dorang x rasa those yg susah nk dpt anak..y dont u just keep it?
Allah maha Kaya..
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greenny reply on June 11th, 2009:
@azlin,
i did asked her not to do that.
but im not her mum.
i wish i were her mum.
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azlin reply on June 11th, 2009:
@greenny,
greeny,
sabar..bkn salah u pun..when u said u cried when she decided to abort, it really shows that u care..i paham ape u rasa…cume i xleh terima abortion..keep it coll babe..
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June 11th, 2009 at 2:35 pm
hi.
thanks for all the comments.
i really appreciate it
i rsa my fren ni dah kne mandrom lah.
every day she kept saying that he miss that bullshit guy!
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ANGGUN reply on June 12th, 2009:
@greenny,
Sabahan & Sarawakkian memang pemabuk, (maaf ye kalau ade pembaca kak red yang sabahan & sarawakkian) ini memang kenyataan, kalau jantan tu nak kawen ngan kawan awak tu, belum tentu dia boleh stop dari minum air tu, masalahnye dia nak ke masuk islam??? soh kawan awak pikir banyak kali. Lagi satu, aku pun rasa dia dah kena mandrem la, diorang memang handal dalam hal-hal mandrem ni.
awak kena soh dia solat bebanyak la, ingat tuhan…
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June 13th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
pompuan nih.. kalo dh cinta.. zaman bercinta.. sumenya kalo laki tuh kelentong semua dia percaya.
dan sometimes.. no point of advising them.
kadang macam sia2 coz they won’t hear that… ok i mean.. maybe memang dgr kat telinga je.., but in terms of action.. dia xkan ikut.
akan pcaya kat bf dia je.. walopon bf dia kasi mcm2 alasan yg bodo..
kdg smpai satu tahap.. tpaksa biar dia belajar sendiri dr kesilapan dia..
but of course la kalo boleh elak.. kita nk elak kwn kita dr jd gitu kan..
i experienced this several times beforehand.. bila ada 2-3 kawan mcm nih..
kalo nak bg nisbahnya.. dari 20 org, sorang je yg dgr nasihat pun dh cukup baik.
whatever it is.. give her encouragement utk dekatkan diri pd TUHAN..
dan doa supaya ALLAH bg petunjuk..
contoh.. bg tunjukkan perangai sebenar laki nih sblm terlambat..
sbb kita ada bahagian masing2..
bahagian utk dgr cakap.. insyaALLAH kita akan jadi kuat dan belajar sesuatu..
bahagian utk tak dgr ckp dan nasihat.. juga kita akan belajar sesuatu.. tp dgn cara yang melukakan dan mungkin memusnahkan kita terlebih dahulu.
and.. it as well, depending on our capability of handling this matter.. positively or vice versa.
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June 28th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
Salam semuanya…
Hmm…cerita ini sama dgn pengalaman sya. & skg ni sya hampir nk pergi abort. Kalau di ceritakan, cerita sya ini dh boleh jd buku. Hanya Tuhan saja yg tahu betapa sengsaranya sya menanggung beban…seorang diri. Org yg b’janji nk kahwin dgn sya dh menghilangkan diri sejak seminggu yg lalu. X dpt di hubungi. Skg dh kandungan dh masuk 18 mgu. Mcmana dgn kerja? sya x boleh kehilangan pekerjaan..sbb sya la stu2nya tpt b’gantung keluarga. Sya dh x ada pilihan.
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didi reply on November 20th, 2009:
salam baby,
Allah Maha Mengasihi..kembali ke jalanNya..insyaAllah akan ditunjukkan jalan..mmg ape yang baby tanggung tuh berat..nih satu ujian..abortion tuh bukan satu jalan..banyak lagi jalan lain..cuba duduk bincang dengan keluarga baby dlu..kita kat Malaysia ade choice lain..mcm rumah pengasih..pusat jagaan utk gadis2 yang taktau nk selesaikan masalah dorang..
n dekat malaysia ni ramai orang yang dah kawin, tp tak dpt anak..and nk adopt baby dr rumah jagaan cam ni..even adik saye pon adopted..dan hanya kenal ibu dia saja..ayah nya taktau pegi mana..tp alhamdulillah..Allah jage adik saye..die tak digugurkan n selamat lahir..kami adopt dr die 2 mnggu..sekarang dah darjah satu nk masuk darjah 2..
berusahalah..mesti ade jalan..tak semua masalah senang utk diselesaikan..yang penting usaha..
jgn give up..jagalah anugerah Allah baik2..
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June 29th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
salam semua… beruntungnya sesiapa yang dikurniakan cahaya mata.. Anak itu kurniaan Allah.. saya terharu dan sedih di atas peristiwa yg berlaku. andai ada ruang untuk saya mempunyai anak sendiri, saya rasa saya memang bertuah.. tetapi hingga ke saat ini saya dan suami menunggu dan berusaha, masih juga belum tiba detik itu..
kepada sesiapa yg tidak menyayangi bayi anda, kami lebarkan tangan menadahnya..
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November 1st, 2009 at 11:27 am
salam to all..i hve sumtin 2 share wif ol of u..juz col me lisa..i de big prob sgt skun n really need ur opinion..am still not priod yet about 10 weeks..sgt rsau evn da wt urine test skli n it shown ngtif..tp i tkut nk peg chec skli ag..coz las 2 week i da chec sme2 ngn my fren yg xpriod ag..die yg blikn kit 2..then we ol test n da rsult is ngtif..but early da monink,she col n told me dat she postve..astaghfirullah!am shock!xtau nk wtpe..klu las 2 week we ol sme2 test said ngtf,but today postf,slh spe???pgntcy test 2 kew??
i xtau nk wtpe skun,.i told my bf n he ask me 2 cool down..nth la..i tkut nk wt 2nd test..tkut postf!any suggestion??help me..
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RedMummy reply on November 1st, 2009:
@ellisa eryna,
r u having sex before nikah kawin?
emm
hish pi jumpa doctor lah
kalau betul positive, pls jangan buat abortion
tolonglah bernikah
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ellisa eryna reply on December 14th, 2009:
@RedMummy, am lisa..i nk story bout my late priod..so far alhmdullilah i oke n da prgntcy test ngtf..but da prob is dat blood not like usual..kuar wane cm coklt2..i pon plik jgk..yeah,i admit am hving sex b4 marriage..i kno am wrong..n am really regret bout dat..tp nc da jd bbur..now i cme b’doa mga Tuhan temukn jdoh kmi..i da xsggup idop dlm dosa yg tiada kesudhn..
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December 16th, 2009 at 5:02 pm
lepas ni jgn la bt lg dik, kalau tangan bf ko dh nk merayap2 tu cepat2 la ko tukar topik lain or bgn dr tmpt tu. pastu ko ckp je kat dia, kalau dia nak cepat2 la pi minang ko, byr mas kawin rm 80 je dah, kalau dia x mampu sangat. pastu bila ko dh kawin n ada anak, br ko nyesal seumur, ko kawin dgn keadaan x proper pastu takut la esok2 anak ko ngikut jejak ko tu br ko tau mcmana mak ko rasa. renung2kan…
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April 14th, 2010 at 9:00 am
jgn pecaye kat bf ko tuhhh….klau dia cyang kat ko mesti dia masuk minang…ni x ,,,men dulu..tu la dak2 skang…ish..ish..tp caye r…
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