Jul 19 2018 Thursday, 12:00 pm
My 43rd Birthday!!!
I blogged about my husband’s Red Iphone 8 on 23rd May. That s his anniversary and birthday present, raya gift gak. This was an OK relationship after months of struggling (the 17 years tu sama gak lah but ni as per the recent one). As usual, ai was the one yang made an effort. Ko ada dapat bini dah dapat pelempang dek laki bagi, tapi bini bagi Iphone 8, mano nak jumpo bini gini kan sangat.
So takpelah, dah rezeki aku lebih. dah tu bahagian dia.
Then, on 11th June, just a week before Syawal. What is my dosa pulak kali ni? Coz i was being honest for his recent attitude, then once again, laki being baran and dumped me at Neo Damansara, Damansara Perdana – Hafiz Hamidun’s event. So dalam gelap jam 9 lebih malam tu, ai had to call a grab balik rumah.
Things didnt work out so well after that. no raya for us no nothing.
So 11th July came.
Nothing from him at all. He didnt want to work out for the marriage (for 17 years jenis yang, hah jom cerai, hah jom divorce, memang takde usaha nak berdamai nak berbaik, jenis yang bila gaduh. hah jom cerai, menyampah aku tengok muka bini aku, bini useless) beginilah for over 17 years ye. No roses bunga merah no wishes at all, no hadiah of course.
only at the nite of 11th July tu, at 1107pm (technically at 2307hours) – a simple wish HAPPY BIRTHDAY . ini sahaja. that s all.
Sedih tak ko kan?
Hehari aku nangis, napa la laki aku camni. Paling ego sombong bodoh tinggi sungguh.
Meaning to say, i ddnt get my Bissels.
Cos I bought lots of stuff for the family, for the husband. Nothing for me. N since aku pun kesian ngan diri aku ni gak, yang dok pleasing je suap memacam hadiah, but untuk self takdak. I went to Dior KLCC.
My birthday present to myself. Happy Birthday Kak Red, the 43rd!!
Yey, thank you for the birthday wishes, walaupun laki dah buang saya from his life. But my kids love me so much. They surprised me with lots of things specially the boys (coz Kakak masih lagi kat hostel). That s fine. Alhamdulillah syukur coz i m surrounded with the poeple who love and care bout me gak, masih lagi. Walaupun the husband dah tak nak look after me, tak nak bagi nafkah makan to me tak nak dah tak bother about me anymore.
This is sad but yes, i have to move on.
MMD
Jul 19, 2018 @ 13:37:21
Dear RM
Bertabah lah dear…. i can feel u.
semah
Jul 19, 2018 @ 13:41:37
bior betul kak red???? r u serious??? takkanlah kot
Miss Volvo
Jul 19, 2018 @ 15:59:03
Kak Red,
Sedih pulak sy sebab selalu buka blog akak, akak jenis happy go lucky je. Semoga akak tabah ye. Sy tahu akak kuat.
Noor
Jul 19, 2018 @ 18:37:01
Sedihnya…Akak ni pembaca setia blog ni. I know that u are such a giver. U are so generous towards your family and readers too.
But I am glad that u made an effort to buy yourself a birthday present. U deserved it. Happy birthday Dear Red. Semoga segala impian menjadi kenyataan.
azita
Aug 10, 2018 @ 10:11:05
me too…..
i’m a silent reader & follower blog kak RM…me do feel pity to her 🙁 keep strong kakak RM!…you deserve better!
didot88
Jul 19, 2018 @ 19:26:47
stay strong kak red… weeeee love u kak red……..
Mimie Hamdan
Jul 19, 2018 @ 19:48:11
You deserved that hadiah kak!
You are one strong women!
Hugs!!
Areniey
Jul 19, 2018 @ 20:11:48
Kak red be strong kak… walaupun berat lg bahu yg memikul.. saya tahu akak boleh harunginya… luv u kak red.. hug ❤️❤️❤️
Mashy
Jul 19, 2018 @ 21:27:59
Dear Red
I feel you……
My prayers for u and yr family
Take care
fids
Jul 20, 2018 @ 04:06:54
happy birthday.
Fazalina
Jul 20, 2018 @ 13:26:06
Stay strong, kak
Yunus
Jul 20, 2018 @ 14:06:01
Good luck kak
Farah aini
Jul 21, 2018 @ 16:36:40
Salam redmummy, I have been your blog reader since you have 2 kids and and then comes the youngest one, The youngest one sama tahun lahir… I like they way you Blogged out on your daily routine, just sad to hear your recent story… whatever happen be strong redmummy, I hope that whatever decision you’ve made, it will be the best to you and your kids-
strongwoman
Jul 21, 2018 @ 16:48:38
This is actually a blessing in disguise. Why bother with such an insecure and coward man? Bini useless??? Haha – you know what it really is? He can’t stand seeing you be so successful in life – whether its your social media, work, home etc. So instead of improving himself this egoistic bully tries to run you down emotionally. You deserve a better life with people you respect and love you. All the best to you dear lady. Please dont weaken and go back to him. 17 years of emotional abuse is enough !
Love razila
Jul 22, 2018 @ 00:31:30
Happy birthday kak red walaupon dh wish dlm fb kat sini boleh so wish jugak… happy belated birthday sebenarnya..
Now baru paham, nape ig akak ada simbol brokenheart. Maaf kak red, just read the blog… sorry to hear that. Saaya doakan semoga kak red kuat dan cekal dalam menghadapi all ujian dan duugaan ini…patutlah x nampak gambar raya..gambar hadiah birthday…selalu gak intai2 hadiah yg kak red bagi kat mr husband and dia bagi kat akak…last hadiah wash bmw kan…
Stay strong kak…insyaallah kami kawan2 sentiasa mendoakan akak dipermudahkan segala urusan selepas ini.
Salam sayang… adik yg suka skodeng ig n fb kak red
Kakmahh
Jul 22, 2018 @ 06:29:22
Akak hanya boleh cakap sabar saja. Inshaallah dipermudahkan segalanya buat kalian sekeluarga.
Ms eda
Jul 22, 2018 @ 07:40:40
Stay strong kak red… semoga Allah memberikan yg terbaik buat kak red & anak2..
P/s: sorry tanya kak red, tp klau tiap klai gaduh keluar dr mulut dia ‘ jom cerai’ tu bukan dh jatuh cerai ke kak..sbb perkataan tu mn boleh buat main kan..tp harap dpt selesai semuanya nt ye kak red..
Love u kak red
Ainee
Jul 22, 2018 @ 09:29:46
Ive been you reader from 2008. Yes u never mentioned RD’s flaw at all. Keep on doing that. May the great and better one will come to you. Tc of ur health. Doa byk2. Allah syg kak red.
Lya
Jul 22, 2018 @ 10:57:49
Salam kak red,
I hope you are doing well with your kids.
I was speechless reading your latest post on blog. You are a perfect wife and mother kak red. I can see that through all your blog posts and your stories. You are such an amazing person, and somehow looking at you i was so jealous at first. I thought how could you be so cool and happy around your kids and husband? You were always happy,energetic,generous to your husband and kids. Because kak,i’m that kind of person too,to give is my best feature.It is beyond my expectation that something like this could happen to you,it happens to anyone,eventually.Be you are kind,pretty,smart,lazy,stupid, it happens anyway regardless who we are.Kak I really hope you keep surrounding the readers with your hilarious energetic loving-family post.You such an inspiring person to many without you realizing it out here somewhere someone is reading what you keep posting on your blog and be happy. That’s a nobel job kak. Trust me, Allah will always keeps you under HIS wings. Whatever I say probably won’t make you feel good or happy or even smile a little bit, I wish you all the luck in the world kak red.
The fact that i’m sad reading about this makes me wanna cry.
Xoxo
Aryn Fadz Lee
Jul 23, 2018 @ 09:27:33
Happy birthday kak red. Hope everything will be going ok..and hope u always be strong..
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Dakpink
Jul 23, 2018 @ 09:43:53
Semoga semua urusan Kak Red dan keluarga dipermudahkan, aaaminnnn.
ezna
Jul 23, 2018 @ 16:41:46
Sedihnya Kak Red. Moga yang terbaik buat kak red and family. Kak Red seorang yang kuat!!!
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Adek
Jul 24, 2018 @ 09:22:53
While this is not an easy thing to share, it acts to address speculation any reader may have so kudos to you for being brave enough to talk about it. So very sorry to hear what you went through and what he put you through all this time emotionally, verbally, physically. No woman deserves that at all, ever! I have faith that you will go through this and emerge stronger than before; after all, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger insyaAllah. InsyaAllah too, Allah will grant you the courage, strength and perseverance to go through this. This is part of His plan and it’s for the better bcos you deserve better! Alhamdulillah you’re surrounded with loving and understanding children, family and friends. And yes, treat yourself well bcos you work hard for it all and you deserve it all!!! Last but not least, Happy belated Birthday, Kak Red, from a fellow July baby. Take good care of yourself ok.
P.S. It’s OK to cry. It takes much strength to cry and admit defeat. I know you will pull yourself out of this temporary setback.
NOORAIN
Jul 25, 2018 @ 10:13:19
kak red…stay strong we love u…………………….
bell
Jul 25, 2018 @ 12:08:04
Happy Belated Birthday Kak Red. Saya doakan Kak Red jadi superwomen untuk anak-anak. Kuat hadapi dugaan Tuhan dan moga Kak Red sihat selalu murah rezeki. Amin
nasa azman
Aug 07, 2018 @ 09:58:28
Semoga dengan pertambahan usia menambahkan berkat dan rahmat dalam hidup
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Iza Ghani
Aug 20, 2018 @ 21:13:14
As salam Kak Red,
I am shocked, sad and angry. Besar sungguh dugaan Kak Red hadapi. I truly didnt see this coming. I lama tak baca your posts. Tapi taklah sangka this kind of stuff can also happen in your life. Bertabahlah Kak Red. Although I don’t really know you, I teared up reading this post. At least im glad u r a carreer woman. Also U r a superMAK. Saya doakan Kak Red dan anak-anak akan sentiasa tabah mengharungi cabaran yang Allah telah aturkan.
Nur Azlinda Azman AZMAN
Aug 26, 2018 @ 20:58:44
Allahuakbar kak
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Suria Amanda
Aug 26, 2018 @ 23:11:51
Salam Kak Red,
Sekian lama saya sibuk..dari hari ke hari saya nak blogwalking dan malam ni baru dapat baca blog akak…allahu..x tau nak kata apa kak…i feel you…walau saya x tau apa cerita sebenar…but i’ve felt thats feeling…now dh 13 yrs i’m being single..x nak and takut nak kahwin lagi…x sangka akak pulak hadapi..i’ve gone through this…its hard kak…its hard but life must go on..saya tau akak kuat..saya tau akak mampu hadapi dugaan ni semua…what i felt now walau i x tau cerita sebenar .siapa salah siapa benar..i just wanted to hug u kak….take care…be strong….
Rozita Abdul Rahman
Aug 29, 2018 @ 09:54:13
speechless.. selepas mengenali akak dgn suami bertahun yang seem so happy loving couple.. saya doakan yang terbaik buat akak ya