Bersama Mak Merah – Cinta 1 Malaysia…

Hi Kak Red,

I’ve been reading your blog since last year, and I think I can get some advice from u over here.

I’m a chinese and my bf is a Malay.

Kita dh bersama for 2 years tp blm rancang nak kawin lg sbb family i. I tggl sama2 dgn ayah je, mak ayah dh cerai lama. Ayah dh tau bf i malay, dia pun tak bantah hbgn kita. Cuma 1 benda yg dia risau, laki ni tak mampu nak jaga i (he meant financially). I pun pernah pkir, kalau masuk Islam, there’s no turning back.

Tp selama 2 thn i dgn laki ni, we love each other and we know what we wanted. Benda yg susah mcmana pn kita lalui sama2. Umur dia pn dah tak muda, kebykan laki umur sebaya dia dh pn berumahtangga, dh ada anak. Dia keja gaji tak lah byk sgt. Utk skrg, mampu untuk diri sndiri, byr sewa umah, and other expenses.

I tak pernah pandang rendah thdp pekerjaan dia mahupn pendapatan dia. Dia tak bepelajaran tggi, tp dia pernah bgtau yg dia nak car keja baru, yg lbh stable. Cuma tak dapat, tak tau keja apa yg dia blh buat. Smua ni i pernah pk, especially bkaitan dgn masa dpn i. I masih blajar, in my final yr now.

Masalah 1 lg, mak i. Mak keja kat HQ company bf i keja. Tp mak tak tau lgsung ttg kita berdua… for these 2 years. Mak bkn jenis yg racist, tp pemikiran dia tak semudah tu… dia mgkin akan rasa laki ni tak akan kekal dgn i, tak dpt beri apa2 kpd i. I takut mak akan benci kat i, or worse still, tak nak jumpa i lg.

Mcmana lah i nak convince mak ttg kita? My bf part pula, i cuba nak tlg tp tak tau apa yg blh tlg la Kak Red… nak carikan keja, entah keja apa yg dia sesuai. My dad, dia asyik risaukan i sbb bf i malay… is it that difficult for parents to accept such relationship?

*Kak Red pls don’t reveal my real name and other details. Thank u…

Crystal

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Rayban for the farewell…

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not for me not for my hubby not for u too. it s for someone special leaving today. Gf and i had a task to get the farewell gift for him, so we settled with 3 items, one of the items is this special Rayban. The 3 items tu pun we walked bertingkat2, for someone yang has everything, i hope today is not the sad day for both of us. going to have a party for him soon!!

for me, i dont go for any expensive sunglasses, haritu the people tanya ‘is that gucci sunglasses?’

bang, sunglasses aku sumer cap ayam bang oiii...skang nih pun aku pakai sunglasses yang harganya RM20 jer bought from the ladies street in HK. paling mahal pun dulu was MNG, but pastu sume aku balingkan kat adik2 aku. i m not investing to the designer’s sunglasses at the moment. RM20 is enaf for me.

wpun 20hinggit, dah 6 bulan kay aku pakai. so worth of money. Kalaupun pada kamu jelek untuk saya pakai RM20, but wpun saya pakai yang 2 ribu, ppl will say, 20 pun ppl will ngumpat, it s not for you to decide on what i pay, apa yang saya beli, it s totally from my duit sendiri. memang bukan duit korang so back to nature again, beli mahal orang akan kata, beli yang murah pun orang akan kata.

i m just being myself, i will buy whatever yang aku sesuai ngan poket aku sendiri.mahal murah it s not an issue. cool?

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Dulu tau makan jer, skang…badan pun bau ikan!

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he has 7 brothers plus him and 2 sisters. for his family, all keje umah, masak memasak anything related kat pompuan, pompuan je yang buat memang tak pernah dibikinnya. when we got married we dont have any helpers at all, some more dia kerja kat spore dulu, so semua a to z aku yang buat. nak kawin pun, lagi sehari  nikah baru balik, after years of getting married, he slowly belajar buat2 kerja rumah, masak memang tak pernah lah, cuma dalam keadaan tertentu dia cuba buat masak nasi and masak sardin. itu je yang dia geti.

but when he s away for long traveling, on seconded basis, ayam masak merah pun dia boleh buat kay. itulah penangan nakkan masakan lauk melayu, tak cukup resepi pun dia usaha gak jadikan. i remember masa aku sampai ke Netherlands, hari pertama sampai aku dah kena dok dapur, he s so wanted to eat asam pedas. then bila the next day nak but ayam masak merah, aku macam aisay, apa ke bahan tak cukup, boleh pulak dia ajar gueeee.

but seperti biasa yang dia belajar dia buat waktu di luar negara sumer dia x nak implement kat rumah sendiri. he s the boss, cooking is not his method. ok takper…tolak ansur. as long as dia dah expert on beli barang2 dapur pun dah cukup besar rahmat pada aku. usually memang pun once a week sirman yang pi kedai pak aji, beli barang2 basah, abih keje, tak pun dia menyinggah umah mak pak aku, dia cariklah apa yang patut.

dulu have to give him the long list, la ni..

sirman tolong beli barang basah yek?

rogerrr!

see..roger jer..kalo hidak ’email me the list’

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so last weekend, kami beli barang2 dapur coz dah kering sesangat, tak leh nak tunggu till wkdays sudoh, aku pergi side kiri, sirman pi side kanan, tak yah ajar2 dia tau nak golek carik udang sotong ayam. cuma tang sayur memang kureng sket lah. dia suka nau amik sayur kacang boncis. dahlah dia sorang je yang makan kat umah tuh. sekali amik ke main banyak, pastu nnt nxt week dia amik lagi yet yang lepas punya pun x abih lagik.

now i understand so much napa dia yang initiate satu project kitorg tu lah. coz i tot to ‘sokay’ jer but after seeing the summary of the project, hemm…padanlah. sirman oh sirman..

dalam citer hal keja umah, aku tanya gak nak tolong basuh pinggan or nak tolong sidai baju… dia suh anak2 take over keje basuh pinggan, since abang memang dah expert, so dia skip sidai baju coz aku yang kena buat and dia layan bluessssssssssssssssssssssssss 🙂

There s no diff actually, in RM he s the one behind the scene and the manager but at home he is the COO 3 paku, mana2 pun sama je level bini dan anak2nya, hv to stay behind him.

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At HP @ Alexis…

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Event with HP, few weeks ago.  Thanks to HP, for the business collaboration all this while. Of cos to Nuffies, love the team so much, sangat2 supportive with my recent decision and issue 🙂

pic credit to @TianChad! miss my long hairrrrrrrrrrrr…photo taken without make up… sigh!

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Bulan untuk Abang…

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malam2 yang seperti malam2 lain, tidurkan anak2…kalau aku tak tidurkan depa, sirman pun boleh tidurkan, kadang2 kitorg dedua panjat katil sama tidurkan. tak tau lah sampai bila depa nak ditidurkan dek makpaknya, umur 15 taun? umur 18? hahahahha over tau ko bang. actually janji abang mintak aircond letak lam biliknya, then dia dah tak mengaco lah tido kat bilik makpaknya, but syarat basic kena ada jugak, wpun nanti ada aircond kat bilik dia, tetap one of us has to sleep with him,sampai dia dibuai lena.

gambar abang nih, actually dia dah tidur, but then dia bangun kencing, pastu sambung lagi suh maknya peluk, then aku saje lah amik gambar, boleh dia jaga mata buat muka lawok2 dia…

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beberapa malam nih bulan terang sungguh…dok sambil aku sidai baju, kapur kasut anak2, tengok terangnya ko bulan…..

Takde masalah yang takdak jalan 🙂

saya gumbira dengan the latest development, alhamdulillah. setapak 2 tapak.

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